💑 Partner's Guide to Periods

A supportive guide for boyfriends, girlfriends, and partners to understand the menstrual cycle and provide meaningful support.

Understanding the Menstrual Cycle

🌑 Phase 1: Menstruation (Days 1-5)

What's Happening:

The uterine lining sheds, causing bleeding. Hormone levels (estrogen and progesterone) are at their lowest.

Physical Symptoms:
  • Cramps and lower back pain
  • Fatigue and low energy
  • Headaches or migraines
  • Bloating and digestive issues
Emotional Changes:
  • May feel more withdrawn or introspective
  • Lower mood or irritability
  • Need for more rest and comfort
How to Help:
  • Offer a heating pad or hot water bottle
  • Prepare comfort foods or tea
  • Give gentle massages (back, feet)
  • Be understanding about canceled plans
  • Stock up: pads, tampons, pain relievers, chocolate

🌒 Phase 2: Follicular Phase (Days 6-14)

What's Happening:

Estrogen levels rise as the body prepares for ovulation. Energy levels increase.

Physical Symptoms:
  • Increased energy and stamina
  • Better skin and hair
  • Higher metabolism
  • Increased strength
Emotional Changes:
  • More outgoing and social
  • Improved mood and confidence
  • Better focus and productivity
  • Higher libido
How to Help:
  • Plan activities and dates
  • Engage in physical activities together
  • Support their goals and projects
  • Enjoy quality time together

🌕 Phase 3: Ovulation (Days 14-16)

What's Happening:

An egg is released from the ovary. Estrogen peaks and testosterone rises.

Physical Symptoms:
  • Peak energy levels
  • Increased body temperature
  • Changes in cervical mucus
  • Mild cramping or twinges
Emotional Changes:
  • Most confident and social
  • Peak attractiveness feelings
  • Highest libido
  • Great communication skills
How to Help:
  • Plan romantic dates or getaways
  • Show appreciation and affection
  • Be attentive to their needs
  • Support their social activities

🌘 Phase 4: Luteal Phase (Days 17-28)

What's Happening:

Progesterone rises preparing for potential pregnancy. PMS symptoms may begin.

Physical Symptoms:
  • Bloating and water retention
  • Breast tenderness
  • Food cravings (especially sweets)
  • Fatigue and sleep changes
  • Headaches or acne
Emotional Changes:
  • PMS: mood swings, anxiety, or sadness
  • More sensitive or easily upset
  • Need for personal space
  • Decreased energy and motivation
How to Help:
  • Be extra patient and understanding
  • Don't take mood changes personally
  • Provide comfort foods (healthy options too)
  • Offer space when needed, but stay supportive
  • Help with household tasks
  • Stock up on period supplies before next cycle

Essential Tips for Partners

🛒 Keep These on Hand

  • Pain relievers (ibuprofen, acetaminophen)
  • Heating pad or hot water bottle
  • Favorite snacks and comfort foods
  • Herbal teas (chamomile, ginger)
  • Extra period products

💬 What to Say

  • "How can I help you feel better?"
  • "What do you need right now?"
  • "I'm here for you"
  • "Would you like some space or company?"
  • "Can I get you anything?"

🚫 What NOT to Say

  • "Are you on your period?" (when upset)
  • "It can't be that bad"
  • "You're overreacting"
  • "Just take a pill"
  • Making it about you

❤️ Acts of Kindness

  • Run errands or pick up supplies
  • Cook their favorite meal
  • Draw a warm bath
  • Watch comfort movies together
  • Give gentle massages