💑 Partner's Guide to Periods
A supportive guide for boyfriends, girlfriends, and partners to understand the menstrual cycle and provide meaningful support.
Understanding the Menstrual Cycle
🌑 Phase 1: Menstruation (Days 1-5)
What's Happening:
The uterine lining sheds, causing bleeding. Hormone levels (estrogen and progesterone) are at their lowest.
Physical Symptoms:
- Cramps and lower back pain
- Fatigue and low energy
- Headaches or migraines
- Bloating and digestive issues
Emotional Changes:
- May feel more withdrawn or introspective
- Lower mood or irritability
- Need for more rest and comfort
How to Help:
- Offer a heating pad or hot water bottle
- Prepare comfort foods or tea
- Give gentle massages (back, feet)
- Be understanding about canceled plans
- Stock up: pads, tampons, pain relievers, chocolate
🌒 Phase 2: Follicular Phase (Days 6-14)
What's Happening:
Estrogen levels rise as the body prepares for ovulation. Energy levels increase.
Physical Symptoms:
- Increased energy and stamina
- Better skin and hair
- Higher metabolism
- Increased strength
Emotional Changes:
- More outgoing and social
- Improved mood and confidence
- Better focus and productivity
- Higher libido
How to Help:
- Plan activities and dates
- Engage in physical activities together
- Support their goals and projects
- Enjoy quality time together
🌕 Phase 3: Ovulation (Days 14-16)
What's Happening:
An egg is released from the ovary. Estrogen peaks and testosterone rises.
Physical Symptoms:
- Peak energy levels
- Increased body temperature
- Changes in cervical mucus
- Mild cramping or twinges
Emotional Changes:
- Most confident and social
- Peak attractiveness feelings
- Highest libido
- Great communication skills
How to Help:
- Plan romantic dates or getaways
- Show appreciation and affection
- Be attentive to their needs
- Support their social activities
🌘 Phase 4: Luteal Phase (Days 17-28)
What's Happening:
Progesterone rises preparing for potential pregnancy. PMS symptoms may begin.
Physical Symptoms:
- Bloating and water retention
- Breast tenderness
- Food cravings (especially sweets)
- Fatigue and sleep changes
- Headaches or acne
Emotional Changes:
- PMS: mood swings, anxiety, or sadness
- More sensitive or easily upset
- Need for personal space
- Decreased energy and motivation
How to Help:
- Be extra patient and understanding
- Don't take mood changes personally
- Provide comfort foods (healthy options too)
- Offer space when needed, but stay supportive
- Help with household tasks
- Stock up on period supplies before next cycle
Essential Tips for Partners
🛒 Keep These on Hand
- Pain relievers (ibuprofen, acetaminophen)
- Heating pad or hot water bottle
- Favorite snacks and comfort foods
- Herbal teas (chamomile, ginger)
- Extra period products
💬 What to Say
- "How can I help you feel better?"
- "What do you need right now?"
- "I'm here for you"
- "Would you like some space or company?"
- "Can I get you anything?"
🚫 What NOT to Say
- "Are you on your period?" (when upset)
- "It can't be that bad"
- "You're overreacting"
- "Just take a pill"
- Making it about you
❤️ Acts of Kindness
- Run errands or pick up supplies
- Cook their favorite meal
- Draw a warm bath
- Watch comfort movies together
- Give gentle massages